I have a white currant bush I inherited from one of my parent’s neighbors. I don’t know if it had ever been pruned. I know it hadn’t in the three or four years I had it, well except by the moose. They keep it short.
As I researched how to prune I learned that the older the branch gets the less fruit it produces. That didn’t surprise me. The hard part for me was the amount of the bush I needed to remove to get it to the greatest potential for fruitfulness. I needed to leave only 4 to 6 branches for fruit this year and some shoots for fruit next year and the year after. I cut out well over 2/3 of the bush!
God began speaking to me about pruning for fruitfulness in my life. There are things that may be bearing fruit but not as much as they could. Putting energy into too many things means nothing is as fruitful as it could be.
The area I’m starting my pruning is my business. I love to work, study, and serve....
There are more distractions now than ever because there are so many opportunities. So many concerns. So much confusion. So many distractions.
How do we live in these times?
There are experts giving just totally contradictory information. We are to honor our leaders. Does there come a point where we don’t just go along with things that don't make any sense?
There is so much I do not know. So many answers I don’t have.
One thing the Lord has given me in the last few days is James 5:8. It says, “ You also be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord, is at hand.” NKJ
Many times, especially if you have young children, we want them to be patient as in, “be quiet, leave me alone until I'm ready”. And that's not what the Lord means when He says to be patient.
The Greek word that's...
I just finished leading my first group coaching program, Mess to Majesty: 90 Days of Transformation and Healing. It was an honor to journey with a small group of ladies as they learned to hear God’s voice, receive healing, and restore their soul.
The group coaching call each week gave the ladies opportunity to learn and receive coaching. They were able to build a safe community to share and process what God was doing in their lives. We explored “The Shame Cycle”, “The Courage Cycle”, and more through my book, Mess to Majesty: Let God Love You in Your Mess.
I always longed to hear His voice, to talk to Him like a friend. I finally learned to hear Him and receive His healing truth and powerful perspectives. I love to take what God has taught me and make it practical and simple to apply for others. It is a joy to share and see others be transformed by God's goodness.
Many ladies shared their favorite part of the program being the group experience....
Often when I mention Childhood Emotional Neglect the question is "What does it look like in an adult?" Here are a couple of posts I wrote on Medium to begin to answer that question.
Does that something wonder how you would know if this is the answer you’ve been looking for? Do you wonder what CEN looks like in an adult?
Dr. Jonice Webb coined the term CEN from years of research and practice. She defines it as
“Childhood Emotional Neglect is a parent’s failure to respond enough to the child’s emotional needs.”
Can you give him a high-five? A bump-it? A smile?
I feel the frustration rising as my social toddler buries her face in my shoulder farther with each question. Why does she act so shy?
I tell myself “I should be able to figure this...
This post is sharing three posts I wrote on Medium looking at identity and shame.
Has life taken so many turns your identity got lost along the way?
I sometimes feel the last few years have done that to me. Read more
Shame — that all too familiar feeling of not being enough. What do you do when it attacks and you find yourself in the middle of a storm? Read how God has taught me to calm myself and the storm.
“When I hear the phrase, ‘you’ll be okay’ I want to cry.”
This statement from a friend struck something in me. My first thought was Me, too! Then I got curious about why that would be my reaction, why would it be anyone’s reaction?
When things started shifting and shutting down for the Coronavirus I felt an urgency saying “It's time to prepare.” It's time to be really intentional. I felt like this pandemic wasn't going to be that bad. It's just a warning. Like the Braxton Hicks contractions. It's not real labor, but it's a warning to get ready. We're getting closer. Are you mentally ready? Are you spiritually ready? Are you physically ready for what's coming? I felt that urgency so strongly it makes me weep. I have been frustrated with myself because I haven't been as intentional in preparing as I want to be.
I want to make the most of this time when the world is completely thrown off-kilter. There's been teachings and training and resources I think I need. I want more time with the Lord and there just isn't time for all of it.
On the one hand, I’m giving myself credit for being intentional, even if it is looking different than I thought it would. God is speaking to me through...
David went up against a giant. Everybody thought he was crazy. Yet he won.
It’s always been a story of the miraculous deliverance of God. David being the underdog, unequipped, and full of faith.
In the book, David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants by Malcolm Gladwell, I got a new perspective. It helped me look at the story in a new way.
I’m not saying the victory would have happened without God. It wouldn’t have. But maybe there are some things we need to look at differently. I think we can see some things that will empower us in our battles today.
David didn't enter into the battle with Goliath, with blind faith that God was miraculously going to kill Goliath.
Look at what David said.
But David persisted. "I have been taking care of my father's sheep and goats," he said. "When a lion or a bear comes to steal a lamb from the flock, I go after it with a club and...
God wants to teach you about Himself in this season in a way He cannot in any other season.
Have you given any thought to that? He wants to be something for you right now He can't be for you at any other time.
I had the idea of a flyer you see on a bulletin board that has the tabs with the phone number at the bottom so you can take it off and take it with you if you want to call about what's on the flyer. The Lord is what you need right now.
Each of His names displays a different characteristic of who He is. God is who we need. We can take the one we need right now.
I chose eight for this post (and poster).
El Elyon, the God Most High (Genesis 14:22), sovereign over all creation. Maybe that's who you need right now, a God bigger than you can understand.
El Roi, the God Who Sees (Genesis 16:13). Whatever you're struggling with, He sees. He understands. He responds with compassion.
Jehovah-jireh is the Lord Who Provides (Genesis 22:14). Maybe you're...
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) isn’t something I want anyone to experience. However, if you have experienced CEN there are ways your experience and recovery can serve you well in a crisis.
In times of crisis, this can serve you well. I'm not saying to go back to ignoring your emotions altogether. Don’t shut down and stuff your emotions. Give yourself time to feel and process.
Knowing how to ignore your emotions can make it easier to tune out the panic and paranoia that can thrive in a crisis. Evaluate your emotions and choose which ones are helpful and which are not.
You grew up anticipating the needs of others and ignoring your own. While you don’t want to back to ignoring your needs you do have a unique ability to see how you can best serve the people in your life affected by this crisis. Remember you are important and include your needs in the planning, too.