I just finished leading my first group coaching program, Mess to Majesty: 90 Days of Transformation and Healing. It was an honor to journey with a small group of ladies as they learned to hear God’s voice, receive healing, and restore their soul.
The group coaching call each week gave the ladies opportunity to learn and receive coaching. They were able to build a safe community to share and process what God was doing in their lives. We explored “The Shame Cycle”, “The Courage Cycle”, and more through my book, Mess to Majesty: Let God Love You in Your Mess.
I always longed to hear His voice, to talk to Him like a friend. I finally learned to hear Him and receive His healing truth and powerful perspectives. I love to take what God has taught me and make it practical and simple to apply for others. It is a joy to share and see others be transformed by God's goodness.
Many ladies shared their favorite part of the program being the group experience....
Why don’t I feel totally changed?
Why isn’t everything different for me?
The women at church talk about how going to this retreat or reading this book changed everything and I never experience that.
It must be me.
It turns out feeling uniquely broken is not uncommon. Especially if you experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
In my CEN recovery training, Dr. Jonice Webb called it your “Fatal Flaw”.
“A Fatal Flaw is a deep-seated, entrenched feeling / belief that you are somehow different from other people; that something is wrong with you.” Dr. Jonice Webb
You believe there is something broken in you that seems irreparable. Something you keep secret because you think - if people knew this about me,...
Cindy began working with me because she felt disconnected from her life - her emotions, her marriage, her interests, everything - and she didn’t know what went wrong or how to fix it.
Living disconnected, watching life pass her by was not how Cindy wanted to live. Looking for answers, she read some books.
Soon she realized this was a journey she wasn’t going to make on her own. There was too much she didn’t know, too many things she needed a new perspective on.
Cindy reached out to me and shared how she was struggling. I assured her I could help because I could relate. I have been there. The Lord has brought me through. I have a passion to help others come through faster and with less pain than I did so, I have been identifying tools and sticking points for years.
Cindy and I worked through my Step into Peace Program. We started with learning to hear God’s voice. The rest of the curriculum has been helpful but these...
I wrestled through some fear before I opened my computer and checked the ranking on Amazon.
I realized I was afraid no one would be downloading the book. I was also afraid people would respond and not be impressed. Maybe what I have to offer isn't good enough after all.
I silenced the fears and trusted that I have been following God in this process so there's no reason to stop now.
God is so good to bless the work I did in obedience. I am humbled. I am learning to be excited and joyful. You're excitement and encouragement helps so much!
We had a great time and discussed a variety of topics like:
Are you harder on yourself than you are on anyone else?
Do you feel empty or struggle to connect with your own feelings?
Do you strongly resist asking for help?
You could be dealing with the effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
Emotional Neglect is a parent’s failure to respond enough to a child’s emotional needs.
Emotional Neglect is, in some ways, the opposite of mistreatment and abuse. Whereas mistreatment and abuse are parental acts, Emotional Neglect is a parent’s failure to act. It’s a failure to notice, attend to, or respond appropriately to a child’s feelings. Because it’s an act of omission, it’s not visible, noticeable or memorable.
Dr. Jonice Webb, Psychologist
I love that Dr. Jonice Webb teaches CEN is not about blaming your parents. Your parents, did the best they could with what they had and blaming them is...
I'm starting a group I don't want to lead.
I've been working on Mess to Majesty. In the book, I share stories from my life, my mess, that I have brought to His Majesty. One of those stories is about a season when I was leading a women's ministry in my church. The story focuses on how I let comparison keep me from growing because I was comparing my leadership style and my ideas to other people's leadership style and always finding myself short. I was deferring to someone else's style instead of having the courage to step out and try my own.
As I was writing this story, I realized I was still holding myself back from leading, which is where the introduction comes in -- I'm starting a group I don't want to lead.
That was the story I told a group of ladies about this time last year and for the last year. I want to be in the group and I want a place for community and growth, but I don't want to lead.
The group has done well. We're a group of 10...
This week I'm sharing a video and transcript looking at our relationship with God. I'd love your feedback on the format.
00:44 On today's Mom Chat I'm introducing seven keys to lasting transformation. These key areas have come through my journey with God and what He has shown me to be transformational; what is it that has worked for me and made the transformation that He does stick instead of here and gone.
01:22 Those keys are: