8 Tips for Calming the Chaos in Your Life from Facebook

rest self-care Aug 15, 2019

Here are 8 simple tips to help calm the chaos that can be Facebook. They are simple but they may not be easy to implement.

  1. Decide why you're getting on Facebook before you login or click to open.

  2. Set a timer that you have to physically move to turn off. I often use the timer on my oven. It won't shut off until I push the button and I have to move to go do that.

  3. Connect with a true friend or a truly supportive group where you can be vulnerable and show up in your chaos when you need to.

  4. If there is a group you want to follow but there are too many posts or too many conversations you can search within the group. On your computer, the search is usually in the left sidebar. On your phone, it usually shows up at the top of the screen. Make sure you are in the group when you search. If you are in a parenting group, rather than reading all of the posts, simply search what you're looking for help with. (ie. enter: potty training or chores or encouragement). Read the posts that come up in...
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I Wish I Could Stop Feeling!

What I feel is bad. I don’t know what to do with it. I should be able to stop feeling this way because these feelings aren’t helpful.

Feelings are helpful when you know how they work

Our other senses give us valuable information about our physical world, emotions give us valuable feedback about our relationships - with God, yourself and others. We would never wish to stop seeing or hearing, why do we wish to stop feeling?

Because we don't know how to hear the messages they have for us. 

How do we get the messages

Feel the emotion

How does your body feel? How are you breathing? Where is there peace? Where is there stress? Where is it coming from?

Name the emotion

If you want help you can use a list of emotions to get you started. Name as many emotions and reasons for them as you can.

Ask what the message is

Once you know where the emotions are coming from and what they are called you can ask what the emotions are trying to tell you. Is there someone you need to...

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Why Am I Never Enough?

“Why do I always screw up?!”

I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve asked- yelled, this to myself. So miserable and so desperate to not feel that way.

Why do I feel I’m never enough?

I absorbed the feeling from my childhood of not being good enough. No one told me I wasn’t good enough, but I felt it all the time. 

I decided results fell into two categories, Perfect and Failure. I also picked up the lie that I was my behavior. Therefore I fell into those two categories as well. 

Perfect or Failure. 

I’ve recently seen that Perfect was never defined. If it wasn’t defined I could never know if I achieved it. Therefore I was always a failure. Always. 

Excellence was held up as the standard but it was code for Perfect. There was also a strange sense of being no learning curve. I thought I was just supposed to be able to do something and of course, do it perfectly. 

Totally unattainable, totally below the...

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7 Keys to Lasting Transformation

God highlighted to me seven key areas that are vital to transformation. They are part of my journey and what I'm passionate about passing on. This is an introduction. For the next seven weeks, I will go deeper on each key.

Your Relationship with God.

It's more than saying Jesus is my Savior. We have a triune God. We have the Father, the Son - our Savior, and we have the Holy Spirit. How well do you know each one of them? How do you interact with each one of them? What are the things that have affected how you see them and how you relate to them?

Those things are all crucial toward transformation because if you don't see God clearly, you don't see anything else could be either.

Hearing God

The primary way that you hear God is from scripture, the Bible. Every secondary way that you hear from Him has to agree with that bottom line. That being said, there are tons and tons of ways He speaks. He has a lot to say, and He's willing to be incredibly creative and how He does that.

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3 Ways to Prepare for Trouble

Since there will be trouble, (Jesus promised there would be until He returns) why not prepare?

Prepare by expecting it. I don’t mean being doom and gloom always expecting everything to go wrong. God is with us and has good plans for us. He also warned us we have an enemy who is always looking to steal, kill, and destroy, so we should be ready.

I often said I house-proofed my children rather than child-proofing my house. They learned boundaries and self-control from a young age. I prepared them to avoid the dangers and trouble that were in their world. I could take them anywhere I wanted to and let them know the boundaries. We weren’t restricted to childproofed spaces.

In much the same way, I can’t send my children into a struggle-free world. Instead, I’m doing my best to give them skills and tools to avoid the dangers and overcome the struggles. Even learn to use trouble to benefit them. My job is not to keep struggle out of their life. Do I teach them to...

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Alaska Earthquake 2018

Things aren’t coming together the way I imagined so I’m sharing a video this week.

I’ll outline the highlights:

0:00:38 The earthquake affected everybody differently.

0:01:18 Get back to normal. NOT!

0:01:50 Emotions that come with an earthquake

 An emotion comes like blinking your eye when something comes at your face. Then you choose what to believe and how to behave.

0:02:38 God gave us our emotions. They’re there for a reason. Ask what it is.

0:03:04 Adjusting

Things are different now whether we wanted them to be or not

0:03:43. Evaluating

What’s important? What’s not?

We didn’t lose any people

0:04:44. Eleven years ago

God’s protection

My family woke up with carbon monoxide poisoning

0:05:26. Perspective

0:05:53. December and 2019

0:06:12. Ask God His perspective:

What went well this year?

What are His highlights of 2018?

What is it He wants to heal, restore, or build in 2019?

Where is it that I need help in 2019?

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How to Screen Your Thoughts

What I want to share is a concept that I’ve learned that has been transformational for me.

I shared this in a video or you can read below.

Screening your thoughts

I see it like we have one of those really fancy touch screens like they have in the TV shows. They throw something up on it and move things around.

We have one of those for our thoughts!

Every thought, either from inside us or that comes at us, can hit on that screen before we actually take that thought on as our own or decide what to do with it.

The first question is, “Is this thought in agreement with God’s thoughts or is it not?” If it’s in agreement with God’s thoughts then that’s great! We’re gonna keep that and act on it.

If it’s not in agreement with God’s thoughts we ask, “Is it my thought or the enemy’s thought?”

It’s a liberating truth to know that they’re not all our thoughts!

So if it’s your thought and it...

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